Girls bullying is a reality. Years ago it was much more socially based. There was always the head cheerleader or prom queen who chose not to like specific girls...we all know these stories. However, girls have been escalating the bullying and it is getting more serious and much more physical.
Most people imagine a "typical" bully as a boy who is bigger or older than his classmates, who doesn't do well in school, who fights, and who likes it when others are scared of him. Girls usually face a different type of bully, one who may not look as scary from the outside but who can cause just as much harm.
What's She Like
The typical mean girl who bullies is popular, well-liked by adults, does well in school, and can even be friends with the girls she bullies. She doesn't get into fist fights, although some girls who bully do and this is growing. Instead, she spreads rumors, gossips, excludes others, shares secrets, and teases girls about their hair, weight, intelligence, and athletic ability. She usually bullies in a group and others join in out of a desire to be part of the group and get her approval lest she turn on them. These types of bullies are being portrayed in movies like High School Musical with Sharpei and Camp Rock.
Girls bullying can have just as serious consequences as boys. It can cause a drop in grades, low self esteem, anxiety, depression, drug use, and poor eating habits in girls who are bullied. This kind of bullying is harder to see. Most of the time adults don't realize when girls are being bullied in this way.
One of the best ways to stop this form of bullying is for the girls who see it or who are stuck in the middle to speak up and say that it is not okay. However, only 15 percent of girls speak up, usually because they're afraid the bully will turn on them next or they will loose their status in the group.
Parents and other adults can help girls beat bullying by teaching them how to stand up for themselves by being assertive . We can teach them to protect themselves and their friends by taking action.
Here are a few things to remember:
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