Parents can stop bullying with assertiveness. This one character trait can be taught using modelling and rehearsing.
Assertiveness is a character trait that acknowledges a persons worth. It allows us to be unique beings with our own ideas, opinions and talents. We understand we are worthy of respect and can think for ourselves. It allows us to be who we are, set limits, boundaries and express ourselves.
Assertiveness is somewhere in the middle of passive like some bullying targets and aggressive like some bullies.
A person who is passive allows themselves to be lead into trouble or allows a bully to hurt them. Being Passive means you don't have limits or boundaries and you allow other people to decide what is best for you.
A Passive person may avoid eye contact, slouch, feel unworthy, and be unable to set limits which allows them to be targeted by a bully. They do not speak up because they do not respect themselves and understand their worth. Like the classic bully victim.
Aggressive people try to control others and push them around or bully them. They have an exaggerated idea of their worthiness and believe others are less than which allows them to hurt others without empathy.
An aggressive person might try to make themselves feel more important by making others feel wrong in some way. They generally are pushy and try to force what they believe on others and control them. Like the classic bully.
An assertive person has their own ideas but are open to the wisdom of others. This person speaks their truth about what they think and how they feel as opposed to just telling people what they want to hear.
An assertive person is able to stop and think when a situation makes them feel uneasy, is hurtful or might get them into trouble. They understand they are worthy and deserve respect. They can say "no" tactfully and get help when it is needed.
A child who stands tall, can look you in the eye, knows they are worthy and speaks their truth is difficult to bully.
Parents may find they have difficulty with assertiveness. It is one of those things that is easier said than done. However, to assist your child and stop bullying with assertiveness you will need to be able to model it for your child (which means you are assertive and they naturally follow your lead) and help them rehearse assertive phrases and walking with confidence.
Rehearsing being assertive with your child can be good for both of you. Realizing you are worthy and deserve respect is a powerful tool for both you and your child. To follow are some suggestions to help your child stop bullying with assertiveness.
Problem solving the specific situations your child finds herself in and rehearsing a few different options can make the difference and stop bullying with assertiveness.