No parent ever wants to ask "is my child a bully?" However, if identified you can help your child turn things around.
How do you sort out the accusations from the truth? This is difficult to think about. There is not a parent on the planet who wants to believe their child is behaving in a cruel and intentionally harmful way towards others.
However, you must realize you are not a bad parent and your child is not a bad kid. You are both doing the best you can with what you know.
If you get a call advising your child is the leader in a bullying incident;
You recognize the warning signs of your child being a bully
Please do not make excuses or minimize the situation. Don’t blame the target or yourself. Beware of your parenting instincts that have you rising to defend your child before you have all the facts.
1) Stay Calm. (Yeah I say that alot because we are parents and tend to react "BIG" when our cub is somehow threatened)
2) Get the details. Remember it is never easy for anyone to bring these types of issues to a parent. So, be respectful and listen being sure to let the reporting person know you are going to follow up with your child.
3) Once you are satisfied you have all the details. You need to talk to your child.
The simple fact that it has been brought to your attention and/or you recognize the warning signs is enough.
Whether or not your child is the bully now you know bullying is a part of their life and you need to take action. Is my Child a bully is not as important as what are we going to do about the bullying? It is important to be there for your child if you want them to be able to move forward without bullying
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